Escort Client Wants Refund

[Ariaaa]

Hey, new account on here as I've taken on a new name (and locked myself out of almost every website I had)!

I had a client who was really disrespectful and started trying to force bareback. I kicked him out halfway through his two hour booking and didn't give his money back for the hour he didn't have, because he treated me so badly. He wouldn't leave for ages, telling me he was going to send his friends round to beat me up etc, then eventually left when I said I was calling my "security". 

Where do I stand, do I have to give his money back? He won't stop emailing me telling me to give it to him and threatening to call police etc. I spent the second hour's money getting a cab to my friends house while I was sobbing at the cab driver about what happened. 

I can give more details about what my relation is to where the meet was privately, if it helps anyone understand if I'm in any danger. I will not contact police no matter how much anyone says I should as I personally don't trust them, but I have reported to UglyMugs. 



His user ID: 2398148
His username: gohtan
Last message (1 hour ago):
You have to give the money through adultwork
I know the girls working in the flat as well
I have not problem with them
You can deposit the money tonight
As your negative review
Take it off
You will get hurt if you not done tonight

[xKatieBabyx]

Not a chance you should refund him. Make sure to leave extremely negative feedback and report him to aw AND the police asap. What if he rapes someone, do you want that on your conscience?

[Ariaaa]

Not a chance you should refund him. Make sure to leave extremely negative feedback and report him to aw AND the police asap. What if he rapes someone, do you want that on your conscience?

Have left extremely negative feedback explaining that he's dangerous, UM reports sent and posted on every forum I can find. Just need to report to AW now. As I said, I will not be contacting police because of my own opinion of them, it's not fair to guilt me into it.

[HeidiBloom69]

Not a chance you should refund him. Make sure to leave extremely negative feedback and report him to aw AND the police asap. What if he rapes someone, do you want that on your conscience?

Have left extremely negative feedback explaining that he's dangerous, UM reports sent and posted on every forum I can find. Just need to report to AW now. As I said, I will not be contacting police because of my own opinion of them, it's not fair to guilt me into it.

I don't think Katie was "guilting" you into it, it is a fair point that he could potentially harm other girls, and that could be prevented.

But if you aren't comfortable going to the police ultimately that is your decision - block him so he can't send any more of these threatening messages, he is clearly just hoping to scare you into giving the cash back - which you should definitely not do!

[Ana_X]

As someone who is currently dealing with police over a matter I will be more vocal about once resolved, I can only say I've found them nothing but supportive and respectful throughout, had them in my dungeon discussing all 'services' etc - they've been pillars of what we all hope the police are like up and down the UK.

As for not going to the police, ultimately that's your call. But do be aware that if you want to you can call 101 from a phone box to tell the non emergency operator what's happened/happening and ask their advice then take it from there.

And as for his threat of calling the police, what's he going to say? He was trying to rape you. I don't think they'd be concerned about his loss of cash in that instance.

[Sunshine_Nikki]

His threat to call the police is just that nothing but a threat.

Him paying money for a service, not receiving the service paid for, and not receiving a refund. Civil matter, civil courts police won't touch it. 

It's an empty threat.

Report him everywhere possible and block him so that he can not contact you.

In regards to the police, after having had to deal with the police (for a very different matter) for the past year of my life I can totally understand why you wouldn't want to speak to them. But if you saw on the front of your local paper next week about a local girl who had been raped by a punter and it turned out to be him could you live with yourself for not saying anything? I don't think I could.

[Miss Kayla]

His threat to call the police is just that nothing but a threat.

Him paying money for a service, not receiving the service paid for, and not receiving a refund. Civil matter, civil courts police won't touch it. 

It's an empty threat.

Report him everywhere possible and block him so that he can not contact you.

In regards to the police, after having had to deal with the police (for a very different matter) for the past year of my life I can totally understand why you wouldn't want to speak to them. But if you saw on the front of your local paper next week about a local girl who had been raped by a punter and it turned out to be him could you live with yourself for not saying anything? I don't think I could.

yes agreed with all this and i would say the same and i do, want a refund take me to court, treats police i say do it...you need to name and shame these that try and cause harm to us and then see where those threats go.

[Nova70]

Well I doubt even he really thinks he's going to get a refund and as for his threats well probably just hot air but that's easy for me to say I'm not the one on the receiving end. The attitude of Police towards this kind of thing can vary from force to force and if they take a hard line on prostitution you may find they take more interest in investigating you than your complaint but by and large I have been told by wgs who've had similar experiences that when they've had threats made against them the Police have at least attempted to trace the person concerned with varying degrees of success.

[Strawberryblonde]

This man is commiting a crime by harassing you.

It may also be interesting to know that there is supposedly evidence to show that men who attack sex workers, will also behave in the same way with non-sex working women. Even if you don't want to prevent it happening to anyone else, he is affecting you and that isn't fair.

[sarahxxx]

For what its worth and my advice would be to have given the guy half his money back at the time the incident occurred, as it was you that has cut the booking short.

There are plenty of arguments for not doing so but I prefer to have a trouble free working situation, as an escort you are always vulnerable, you are also easy target for nutters that will not leave you alone. If somebody has a grudge against you there are many ways they can mess you about and they can do this in a way that does not reveal it is them doing so, in the long run you can lose out by far more than you gave the client back and have to deal with a lot more stress as to why somebody is out to cause you a problem every time you try and work..

I am not saying you are wrong in what you did and I am not saying I would not do the same, I probably have done at some point, but you also have to judge the temperament of the person you are arguing with as things can get out of hand and I am not built for putting up a fight against an aggressive client.

Hope it works itself out.

Sarah x x x