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#1
I have noticed that many excorts here have a high regard for their "regulars": not just as a steady source of income, but as friends too. I've been seeing escorts since April, and I'm not really a "shag a different girl each time" sort of guy: ideally I'd like to have about 3 escorts that I'd like to see on a regular basis, with the occasional adventure elsewhere (I tend to fall in love rather easily, and I'm hoping that spreading my affections might prevent the development of a hopeless infatuation with one girl).

But my budget is limited: I'm a married man with a (frigid, sexless) wife and two kids. My ability to smuggle cash into my "escort budget" is limited to about £100 to £150 per month: enough for one 1-hour booking or two half-hour ones (I won't consider 15-minute quickies, I want more time than that). So far, my plan is to see each escort for 1 hour initially (to have a bit of time to get to know her), then half an hour on each return visit (so that I can actually afford to keep seeing her).

My first escort experience, in April, was a bit strange. She wouldn't meet my gaze and kept looking away. But I sent her a "thank you" email regardless, and in her reply she seemed keen to see me again: which I did, in May, and she was a bit more welcoming then (and gave me encouraging feedback afterwards). I think she's maybe a little shy, which is kinda cute. I'm still hoping we can become friends. But I had to tell her that I wouldn't be seeing her for awhile (I wish I had a bigger budget for this!).

In June, I booked my second escort. She was beautiful, sexy, and friendly: I was really looking forward to seeing her again. In July, I tried: but she texted me to cancel when I was halfway to Bristol to see her. There was no explanation, and when I emailed her to ask what had happened, she read my message but did not reply (and, yes, I was polite: I was actually concerned that something bad might have happened).

After waiting a few days, I booked escort number three. We agreed a time and she accepted the booking, but when I drove to Bristol (again) to see her: no contact. Her phone was turned off, leaving me with no directions. I was pretty frustrated, with two failures in a row, in Bristol with a day off work booked and an envelope of cash that I was apparently unable to spend. Rather than head home again, I used my smartphone to go online and find an available escort immediately.

...Which is how I ended up in a hotel room with a Spanish girl who didn't speak English. She could read and text in English, but verbal communication was almost impossible. She understood "69" (fortunately), but not words such as "more", or "again", or "rest". I wanted to have more sex with her by going again after I had rested, but her vocabulary was not up to the task! Eventually sign-language worked, but even so, it had been a bit of a struggle. She was pretty and the sex was good, but I doubt if she actually offered many of the services on her rather implausibly long "likes" list (and how would a non-Spanish-speaker ask for them anyhow?). She was also very busy, keeping me waiting half an hour in the hotel corridor: I ended up meeting both her previous client and the one who came after me, even though I only used about 40 minutes of the hour I had booked (the sex was over and chatting was out of the question, so I didn't quibble).

The following day, I got a reply and an apology from the escort I had failed to meet. She's a university student and was called in unexpectedly to sit an exam. I apologised in return for spending "her" money, because of course I can't afford to book her now! She seems really nice (she even gave me positive feedback on the failed booking), and I have a good feeling about this one, but I'm strugging to scrape more cash together (I can now afford half an hour, but I'm still hoping for an hour).

After I've seen her... then what? See her a second time? Another attempt to see the second escort? Going back to the first one again? Ideally all three, but that will take months! At this rate, it will be sometime in October before I can really start to call myself a "regular" client of any escort.
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#2
Don't get hung up on it.

Most guys seem to just see girls once a month or what ever they can afford... they see a girl, and if they like her they will see her again next month, and the month after and the month after that... until they get bored or another girl catches their eye.

Half hour is too short to be good... it's just "getting off", in my view, which is why I don't offer it. It is also uneconomical if you are on a budget... two half hours will, with most girls, cost you more than a single one hour session.

There is nothing wrong with seeing a girl once every 3 months... I have guys who I regard as "regs" who I see much less often than that - I even have a couple of guys who I see once a year!

I think, if you want the truth, that you are trying to over complicate it.

The second time you see a girl she will start to see you as "not just another trick" and the third time she will start to think of you as one of "her" guys...

Just relax and enjoy... mix it up a bit if you like, and go and see a girl a second time if you enjoyed.

Remember... the whole purpose of sex for money is that it is casual... you don't have to commit to any girl!

None of us will be heart broken if you don't come back.

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Treat it as a treasure hunt Wink x
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Good call
You will quickly find 3 who are worth seeing now and again and forget the rest.
Anyway looking it as a treasure hunt is a good idea-as long you dont go looking for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow .
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#4
Like everyone says all you can do is visit girls that appeal to you until you find the ones you have a sexual chemistry with. But remember it is a business transaction at the end of the day. You make a deposit and she ensures it is a good one.
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#5
If you find a good one stay with her but always be on the lookout for a replacement as escorts have a habit of dissappearing.

I try to have one really good lady who I look forward to visiting her as often as poss but I always carry on my research I tend to visit a wg once every two to three weeks depending on funds
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#6
Having regular clients is fantastic and you build up a really good rapport with them but there have been times when I have had to cut ties with my regular clients.

But unfortunately there have been times when clients have assumed that I am in desperate search of a boyfriend/husband, have no private life and would be quite happy to welcome them into my private life, assume they are entitled to longer than their booked appointment time.

It is trying to ensure that you respect the boundaries between a client and an escort without it becoming more than just what it is supposed to be.
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#7
I very rarely stay over my time booked and try to stay out of any wgs problems it does not always work and I have found myself doing lots of various things at strange times in the night as a lady may be in trouble. My latest was a prowler or so the lovely lady thought.
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#8
Thanks for the replies!

...Well, so much for the student I "had a good feeling about". When I had finally managed to gather the cash, I emailed her to say that I was ready to try again... and she deleted my email without replying. Somewhat taken aback by this, I waited a few days and tried again... same result. So I ended up booking someone else (and at least this worked out rather better than the Spanish girl: this one was Thai, but spoke English, and all went well).

I had no idea escorts were so unreliable. Or am I just having a run of bad luck? That's two out of my initial three choices that I've had to "write off".

(13-07-2012, 19:57)Trinity-Belle Wrote: Just relax and enjoy... mix it up a bit if you like, and go and see a girl a second time if you enjoyed.

Remember... the whole purpose of sex for money is that it is casual... you don't have to commit to any girl!

None of us will be heart broken if you don't come back.

Treat it as a treasure hunt Wink x

Yes, I've pretty much abandoned my original plan now. So many girls, so little time (and cash)... I guess I am going to be one of those "shag a different girl each time" guys, at least for a while, until I've got through most of my hotlist. At this rate, when I start going back for seconds, they won't remember that I've seen them before!

(15-07-2012, 11:19)curvy crumpet Wrote: Having regular clients is fantastic and you build up a really good rapport with them but there have been times when I have had to cut ties with my regular clients.

But unfortunately there have been times when clients have assumed that I am in desperate search of a boyfriend/husband, have no private life and would be quite happy to welcome them into my private life, assume they are entitled to longer than their booked appointment time.

It is trying to ensure that you respect the boundaries between a client and an escort without it becoming more than just what it is supposed to be.

At least my anti-infatuation strategy seems to be working. I was quite smitten by the first one, and the second, but now that I've seen two more... I'm getting a better sense of perspective. I wish I'd discovered this years ago, a number of unrequited crushes in "real life" could have been painlessly dealt with this way!
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#9
There are probably as many unreliable escorts as good ones. When I have been on the look out for a escort you can usually send off three or four emails and you will probably get one reply.
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#10
Please bare in mind guys that escorts get sent hundreds of e-mails on adultwork and it may not even be their main job. Soemtimes it's really hard to get back to everyone quickly, especially when you take into account all the timewasters and countless e-mails that go back and forth. Once your inbox fills up someones e-mail disappears off the first page. I'd suggest following the e-mail up as a gentle reminder as it may be that they haven't had chance to get back to you.
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